Emotional abuse is the portion of the class that I found to be the most fascinating. This is mainly due to the uncertainty involved with this particular issue. Childhood emotional abuse is defined as the adverse parental behaviors in a sustained pattern of interaction, which impact a vulnerable child producing damage to a child s emotional and psychological function. The definition can be further explained by giving examples of the abusing parent s actions towards the child. The parent could possibly be rejecting the child. Rejecting a child could mean either, not paying attention to the concerns of their son or daughter, or just failing to validate their feelings. Isolation is also another factor of emotional abuse. This simply means the caregiver is preventing the child from participating in any outside activity and keeping the child secluded at home. These emotional factors severely affect the psychological development as well as the physical development. When a parent chooses to emotionally abuse their child, they hinder the child s overall development and cause the child to feel inadequate, isolated, unwanted, or uninvolved. This leads to a low self-esteem and may trigger unwanted behavioral responses, which may consist of anger and aggressiveness, or at the other end of the spectrum, depression or suicide.
One of the major problems with childhood emotional abuse is detection. Sometimes the parent does not even realize that he or she is truly abusing their child. The abuse may come as a result from a stressful day at work, or problems with a spouse. It is when the child takes the blunt of the anger on a constant basis; the issue is then seen as emotional abuse. Lack of immediate physical signs also makes emotional abuse difficult to detect. Where as physical abuse will leave bruises, bone fractures or some other indicator, emotional abuse directly affects the child s mind. Therefore detecting emotional abuse takes time. To try and predict whether or not a child is being emotionally abused, one has to look for behavioral trends in both the child and the parents.
The discussion of childhood emotional abuse seemed a bit ambiguous to me at first. My first thought of the issue was there was no accurate way to pinpoint emotional abuse. In the field of Microbiology, one looks for empirical data to discover an exact truth through precision and accuracy, but when one deals with the emotions of an individual, precision and accuracy are replaced by instincts from observations. I also see the distinction between emotional abuse and a parent just going through a rough time. Prior to this class, my personal feeling would have shadowed any difference and I would have seen the issues as one in the same. Therefore the class has not only enlightened me, but also made me a better person through lack of ignorance.
In conclusion, remember the definition of emotional abuse. It is the adverse parental behaviors in a sustained pattern of interaction, which impacts a vulnerable child producing damage to the child s emotional and psychological function. We as adults must make a conscious effort to realize the consequences of our actions. As adults we have the mental capacity to control how and what we do. Emotional abuse is just as devastating as any other form of child abuse and is the underlying factor in all other forms. Parents must take into account the vulnerability of a young child and provide for their physical and emotional well-being.
Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Verbal or emotional abuse is a very serious matter that millions of people suffer from each and every day. This kind of abuse is very hard on both the abuser and the victim because of the devastating results it has on the peopleâs emotions and everything they do. In America today there are one to two million people suffering from this kind of abuse.
Verbal or emotional abuse, is when a person, the abuser, tries to make his or her own self feel better by putting down a certain individual, the victim. The longer this goes on, the harder it is for the victim to recover his or her self-esteem.
Verbal or emotional abuse are put downs that happen on a regular basis from one particular person, usually done in private. These put downs are mostly insults that tell you that you are no good. These phrases, âYou are Ugly,â âYou donât deserve to live,â Its your fault,â are examples of verbal or emotional abuse. The abuser persuades the victim to make them believe something that is untrue and harmful by using words. They use these words to attack, hurt, injure someone, or to gain power over them.
These kinds of abuse, performed by the abuser, are done for various reasons. The abuser may have such low self-esteem, that they use these hurtful put downs to make themselves feel better, by highering their own self-esteem. They may also get some sort of cruel pleasure or enjoyment out of seeing other people suffer. When the abuser is confronted with verbally or emotionally abusing someone they just deny it. Another reason a person would verbally or emotionally abuse someone, is because they believe they are behaving normally and are unaware that they are really hurting the victim with these powerful words.
The victims in emotional and verbal abuse situations, usually are not the ones to identify they are being abused. They usually find out about this after seeking professional help because of signs of depression and uncontrollable mood swings, usually crying. The counselors or Psychologist, can usually detect a case of this kind of abuse when the victim constantly feels worthless and has no control over emotional outbursts.
When the abuser uses these hateful suggestions on the victim, it rips their self-esteem apart, as well as their emotions. They also began to feel that it is their own fault that they are getting verbally or emotionally abused, because the abuser puts this effect on the victim. The victimâs confidence drops and feels the abuser has complete control over them.
In these abusive situations, it is hard for the victim to seek out help, because they are unaware of the abuse happening to them. Usually an observer of this abuse has to refer the victim and let them know what is actually happening to them. But once you get help life only gets easier from there, because the counselor or psychologist will teach you ways to deal with these hurtful words; this way it doesnât have such a great effect on you and your emotions.
Verbal or emotional abuse is the hardest type of abuse to recover from. Unlike physical and sexual abuse, which you eventually get over, emotional or verbal abuse sticks with you forever. It only takes accidental words to bring back this tearful and painful experience.
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