What Makes You A Unique Individual Essay

What do people remember about you when you walk out of the room?

In my case, I may think it’s my background and knowledge that makes me special, but it’s more likely that what’s really memorable is seeing food magically transports itself from my plate onto the floor or onto other laps when I’m excited…

What makes YOU special?

Take a look at the following list of 35 things that make you special. It’s like a life inventory. When you consider all the questions, you’ll get a sense of how your life is at the moment, and how you could change it to bring out YOUR special uniqueness.

1. Personality

What is your personality? Take a look at the following personality types according to the Enneagram. Are you

  • An idealistic Reformer,
  • a caring Helper,
  • a success-oriented Achiever,
  • an introspective Idealist,
  • an idealistic Reformer,
  • a caring Helper,
  • a success-oriented Achiever,
  • a sensitive Individualist,
  • an intense Investigator,
  • a security-oriented Loyalist,
  • a spontaneous Enthusiast,
  • a powerful Challenger,
  • or a reassuring Peacemaker?

You can take the Enneagram test here.

2. Signature style

What’s your signature style? Are you engaging, entertaining, moving, intense, funny, bold, ditzy, serene, boring, or threatening?

3. Beliefs

What do you believe about life, the universe, or about yourself? Do you have religious beliefs? Do have beliefs about yourself that limit your potential?

4. Spirituality

Are you drawn to the mysteries of life? Do you use spiritual practice, i.e. meditation, prayer, or other to nurture your spirituality?

5. Aspirations

What are your aspirations? Do you strive for a cause that is greater than you?

6. Dominant sense

Each of us has a dominant sense through which we experience the world. What is your dominant sense? Is it sight or sound or touch?

7. Thoughts

What kind of thoughts are mostly in your mind? Are they daydreams, or thoughts focussed on your current project? Is your mind usually focused on the past, on the present, or on the future?

8. Goals

What are your goals? Have you recorded them? Which goals we choose, and whether we set them determines a substantial part of our uniqueness. Click here to learn how to set goals.

9. Creativity

Are you creative? Do you create at work, or write, paint, cook, or in any other way? Often people who are creative are more lively and happier than those who are not. Find out what makes us creative.

10. Happiness

How happy are you? Take the test here to see how happy you are. Find out what authentic happiness is.

11. Attitude

What is your habitual attitude? Is it negative or positive? Our attitude is shaped by influence and association, beliefs, thoughts, expectations, and self-talk. How was your attitude shaped?

12. Attraction

What are you drawn to? What are your favourite colours? What’s your favourite music, climate, or food? What kind of people do you like?\13. Genes

We are shaped by both heredity, as well as environment. What traits have you inherited from your parents that make you unique?

14. Body

The size and build of our body is genetically encoded. However, how we care for our bodies determines what it looks like. Check out the following questions: Are you slim or overweight? Are you fit or out of shape? Are you flexible enough to touch your toes? Is your body able to practise sports, or dance, or do yoga, or train in martial arts? If you have a physical disability, are you stretching your capability to the limit, or not?

15. Face

The face is a mirror of the soul. If we are kindly and upbeat, our face looks animated and relaxed. If we feel down, or anxious or ill, our face looks tight and grey. What is your face like? Do you take moments to relax your face?

16. Ethnicity

What is your ethnic origin? Are you proud of your culture of origin and your ancestors, or not?

17. Culture

What is your culture? Is it followed by the majority or a minority of the people around you? In what way does your culture influence your life?

18. Voice

We are born with a particular voice and its resonance, tone and pitch. However, it can be developed – as actors and singers know. What is your unique voice like?

19. Diction

Do you speak with an accent or a dialect? The way we pronounce the language we use is a unique marker.

20. Gender

Gender is only partly determined by body formation. What masculine and feminine traits do you see in yourself?

21. Health

Good and bad health are life’s gift and burden. What really shapes our uniqueness is the attitude to health. What is your attitude? Are you pro-active or passive? Do you complain or actively seek healing?

22. Hormones

Hormonal patterns determine whether we are tired, or hungry, or irritated, or lustful.
What hormonal patterns or surges are noticeable in your life and how do they influence you?

23. Age

Age is a biological factor. But it is also influenced by the mind. Do you feel old and unfit, as well as low on energy and drive? Or do you feel vitally alive, energetic and youthful? If you want to feel youthful, you need to put effort into keeping your mind and body in good shape. How do you keep in good shape?

24. Intelligence

Being intelligent is not only having a high IQ. Intelligence is now seen to include social, emotional, and physical aptitude. Your mix of these strands of intelligence is what makes you unique. How do you maintain and develop your intelligence?

25. Life experience

Each of us has a unique experience of life. Used wisely, experience is valuable because we can recognise patterns and respond appropriately. Which life experience has shaped you most?

26. Childhood

The childhood we experienced in the past makes us unique today. What was your childhood like? How has it shaped you? If your childhood included traumatic experiences, what have you undertaken in order to heal from them?

27. Trauma

What kind of life crises have you experienced? Have you integrated them, or are they still unresolved? (My upcoming Ebook From Tragedy to Triumph: How to Win Through a Life Crisis explains how to integrate difficult experiences).

28. Opportunities

We have all encountered different opportunities in life. What kind of opportunities have you encountered or created? How have you responded to them? What we make of opportunities is part of what makes us special.

29. Relationships

Whom and what we relate to makes us who we are. Which human beings do you love or feel connected to? Whom do you feel disconnected with? What about the environment – do you love nature, or the city? What is your relationship to animals – which are your favourite animals?

30. Learning

Your stance towards learning makes you unique. Is continuous learning important to you or not? Do you like formal study or informal learning? What kind of learning environments work best for you?

31. Habits

How do you spend your time on a regular basis? How much time to you spend on passive recreation, such as TV? Do you have an unpaid activity that you enjoy? How important is this activity to you?

32. Work

Most people spend more time at work than asleep. How we spend this big chunk of our life makes us unique. What do you define as your main work? Do you work for yourself or work for others? Do you work mostly alone or with a team of others?
Are you passionate about your work or is it a chore? Do you earn enough to keep yourself going or are you struggling financially?

33. Quirks and foibles

What are your quirky habits? As I said in the introduction, these foibles can be the thing that people enjoy about us.

34. Communication style

Psychologists pinpoint four different communication styles. Are you a Relater, Socialiser, Thinker, or Director?

35. The life journey

Each of us is on a unique life path. Which path we follow defines a part of our uniqueness. What path have you chosen?

What strikes me is that we are able to change most of these variables! What makes us truly special is how we spend our energy, thoughts, and time, as well as how we respond to whom and what we encounter.

It’s in your power to evolve and bring forth the unique, special person that you are. That’s an awesome responsibility

When you read this list, what did you realise about your life? Please share you thoughts in the comments.


Many college hopefuls fret about how to make themselves stand out during the application process. Some become involved in as many extracurriculars as possible, while others take an all-AP curriculum. Still others volunteer every waking moment, or focus on establishing themselves in rare or unique fields.

Although all of these are great ways to stand out, what many students don’t realize is that the most effective and fool-proof way of declaring their uniqueness is already staring them right in the face—every single time they look in the mirror!

By taking a long, hard look at who you are, and taking pride in your life, experiences, and background, you’ll be able to present a one-of-a-kind story to colleges that will make you memorable, and might even increase your chances of acceptance.

Recognize Your Own Uniqueness

Of course, it can be hard for you to see what makes you special. After all, you live with yourself, and know yourself inside and out; the things that others see as unique or special about you might be invisible to you, because you live them every day.

Start by asking yourself some questions. Some of these may not seem like the questions colleges want to know the answers to, but they’ll help you start thinking about who you are and what your background is like.

  • How would you describe your childhood and young adulthood?
  • What kind of high school do you attend?
  • What is your most unusual family tradition?
  • Are you part of a big family? Are you an only child? How did this affect you as you were growing up?
  • Who is the most significant person in your life? Why?
  • Have you traveled extensively?
  • Do you speak any languages other than English?
  • Are you a demographic minority? Did you observe any special traditions growing up?
  • What is your religious background and level of commitment (if any)?
  • Do you play any instruments?
  • What extracurriculars do you take place in at school?
  • Do you volunteer? If so, where?
  • What do you think is the most interesting job you’ve ever had?
  • What is the most considerable hardship you’ve ever had to overcome? Why?
  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?

You’ll notice that these questions don’t really focus on academics. Schools will already know everything there is to know about your academic background—what they want to know about is you. It’s your job to present them with your true, interesting, and unique self, and make them care about you.

After you’ve answered these questions (as honestly and thoroughly as possible—no single word or “perfect” answers!), then ask someone else to read your responses, and tell you what they think stands out the most about you, what is the most interesting. You’ll be surprised at what they say! It’s better still if you ask people that you would consider acquaintances rather than friends; although friends know you well, they may know you too well, which would defeat the purpose of this exercise.

Start recognizing these interesting traits as your own unique characteristics, and start becoming comfortable with the idea of talking and writing about them. These are the traits that will make you stand out and become memorable to colleges.

Understand Cultural Diversity

Diversity is not just about how you grew up, though; it’s also about your heritage. Think about where your parents were born (was it in a different part of the United States than were you live now? Was it in a foreign country?), and think about the kinds of things you did to celebrate special holidays and festive occasions during your childhood and teenage years.

We tend to forget that the way we celebrate and congratulate may be different than other peoples’ ways of celebrating, simply because it’s what we’ve always done. However, taking the time to think about where our parents come from and how that affected how we interact as a family can give you valuable insight (and pride!) into who and how you are.

Remember Ethnic Diversity

Don’t forget that your ethnic diversity is just as valuable to your own uniqueness (and is just as interesting) as your cultural background. Are you Hispanic? Asian? African-American? European? Russian? The possibilities are endless. You don’t necessarily have to have been born in a foreign country to possess ethnic diversity.

This is where thinking about where your parents come from can help you figure out your own diversity. Chances are, if you have a particular ethnic background, you will also have certain customs and practices that come with it.

Think about it: Where are you really from? Not just your city and state, but your parents’ city and state, and their parents’ city and state. How did that affect your upbringing? Did it make you see things differently? Did you act a certain way, or live life in a particular manner because of your ethic background?

Don’t forget about all those wonderful and very interesting tidbits when thinking about how you are stand out. Even though they may seem like nothing special to you, they can be very special and interesting to people who want to know more about you (and that’s exactly who college admissions deans are!).

Don’t Forget Personal Diversity

In addition to your cultural and ethnic background, there are many, many facets to your personality that weren’t molded by your heritage. Things like political and religious beliefs, personal strengths and weaknesses, and academic and athletic assets have done as much to shape your person and personality as everything else. Don’t forget to consider them. Although they may have been influenced by others, these traits are now a part of who you are, and have made you into the person you are today.

If you’re not sure where you stand on these issues, take a moment to ask yourself some questions:

  • What are my political beliefs? What do I stand strongly for or against? Am I politically knowledgeable?
  • Do I have strong religious beliefs? What are they? Are they an important part of my life?
  • What are my greatest strengths? What do I believe I bring to the table as a person?
  • What are my greatest weaknesses? Are there things I am not good at, or think I still need to improve on?
  • What are my strongest academic subjects? Where do I excel? What are my weakest subjects, or those I believe I need to work on the hardest to get the best result?
  • Am I athletically capable? What are some of the sports I love to play? Why? Am I a good team player, or do I prefer sports I can play and practice alone? Do I strive to be the leader in my sports team?

Use Your Diversity of Experience

When thinking about all your qualities and traits, it is easy to forget that it was experiences that made you into who you are. When writing your college essays and taking part in admissions interviews, it is your experiences that will make you stand out and become memorable. Don’t forget that the most important part of learning and gaining pride in who you are is recognizing the experiences that got you there.

To make your essays and application as strong as possible, it will be your responsibility to not just tell colleges about your personal characteristics, but show them with stories and anecdotes that showcase these traits. Don’t just tell them that you are a great athlete—show them by relating a story of how your team won the State Championship. Don’t just tell them that you thrive under pressure—show them with a story about how you took the lead role in the school play on short notice with only two days to learn all the lines and rehearse.

It is these stories—your diversity of experience—that will add color and spice to the application you’re creating, and it is what will make you memorable.

It can often be difficult, when asked to talk or write about yourself, to think about what you could tell or what traits to highlight. However, by taking the time to really think about what makes you unique and taking pride in who you are, you will learn to tell a story that is both unforgettable and inspiring, and will paint a beautiful picture to which colleges simply can't say no.
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