If you help others, they will help you back.
Sounds obvious, right? Over the past few weeks, I’ve had a eye-opening realization of how important helping others actually is. No action, no matter how small, is without its effect on those around you. People may forget what you said or what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel. Behind every successful individual is a vast network of people who support them.
Everyone needs help at some point in their lives. Everyone also has the ability to help in someway or another.
My Grade 7 Health teacher said something that still sticks with me today:
It takes a lot of energy to make someone else feel bad, and in the end, you only feel good for a little while. When you make someone else feel happy, not only are you happy too, but that feeling lasts much longer.
That’s a good way to think of things when we address issues such as bullying and discrimination. With our words and actions, we have the ability to both harm and help others. It can get tiring quickly when you’re intentionally directing time towards degrading others to elevate your own position. It’s what leads to shouting insults, fist-fights, and causing unnecessary drama.
Instead, treating others with empathy is the best way to gain respect from your peers. Offer a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or words of advice. This is how you build healthy relationships that are founded on mutual trust rather than conflict. You can never really know what problems that other people are facing, and sometimes the simple act of being there for them is powerful. They will remember it, even if you think it was no big deal.
How do our actions really affect others?
There is a great TED Talk by Drew Dudley where he tells a story of his lollipop moment.
On his last day at University, a woman approached him and thanked him for something that happened 4 years ago. It turns out that during her first day at University, she decided that she wanted to quit. Just then, Drew came out “wearing the stupidest hat I have ever seen in my life… It was awesome.”
Drew was handing out lollipops to people in line. When he got to her, her parents got a severe look on their face and said: “Look at that, look at that. First day away from home and already she’s taking candy from a stranger!”
Everyone around them erupted in laughter.
She said: “In that moment when everyone was laughing, I knew that I shouldn’t quit. I knew I was where I was supposed to be. I knew that I was home. I haven’t spoken to you once in the 4 years since that day, but I heard that you were leaving. I had to come up and tell you that you’ve been an incredibly important person in my life and I’m going to miss you. Good luck.”
Drew asks the audience: “How many of you guys have alollipop moment? A moment when someone said something or did something you feel fundamentally made your life better?”
Several people raised their hands.
He continued: “How many of you have told that person they did it?”
Even fewer people raised their hands.
He goes on to explain that we have all helped others in some way, we just haven’t been told yet. We believe that leadership is something that’s greater than us, that we’re not worthy of being called a leader. So we dismiss the special lollipop moments where we are a leader. The fact that such a small act can have such a significant impact is frightening.
He quotes Marianne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, it’s that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us.”
It’s a profound message: the realization of the amount of power we have to change the lives of others for the better.
It is the “Good morning.” The friendly smile. The holding of the door for someone else. It is giving compliments. It is highlighting other’s strengths, not weaknesses. It is encouraging people to be themselves. It is caring about the minorities. It is about late night talks about life. It is listening to rants about everything. It is giving up time to help those in need.
All these things add up.
You may not know it, but people appreciate when you help them. It motivates them to be better people. Even after the person has finished a lollipop, they still have that sweet taste in their mouth. Instead of being bitter, they now strive for sweetness. Before you know it, that person is now handing out lollipops to other people, just like you are.
If you haven’t already checked out my previous blog about “The Importance of Motivation,” you can find it here: https://www.youthareawesome.com/importance-of-motivation/
DFTBA! (Don’t Forget To Be Awesome!)
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Random acts of kindness is a good example of the golden rule, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". I've done many acts of kindness but one really enriched my life and touched my heart. I ended up gaining a sister, a friend for life, a clean house, and in the end I ended up needing her as much as she needed me.
A couple of months ago, a friend of mine brought a young lady over for me to meet. We met, talked for about ten minutes, and then she politely asked if she could use my shower. During the time she was in the shower, my friend explained to me that she was without a home and had nowhere else to go. I explained to him how my home is always welcomed to those in need. I recalled how rough it was for me when I too was homeless, out on the streets, struggling to make ends meet. It did not take her long to get comfortable and feel right at home.
She is still living with me after two months, and I've asked her to reside with me for the rest of my life. She has helped me out through so much. I now get to come home to a clean house and gourmet cooked meals every night. I quickly gained a sister and friend for life.
Shortly after, her moving in, my fiance (and soul mate) got deployed to Afghanistan for nine months. I have never had to deal with a deployment before. Fortunately for me she has been through many deployments and knew exactly how to help me through this one. I never realized how hard it would be, but sure enough she is helping me pull through this. I couldn't have done this without her. She has also motivated me to go out and do more. I'm no longer allowed to just sit around the house anymore. I now have to actually get up in the mornings, instead of sleeping all day, and help clean the house. I am made to get out of the house on a daily basis, even if I only take a short stroll around neighborhood.
It doesn't just go one way though. I have helped her out with stability, getting her car registered, and having it insured. I have also motivated her to get in school, she is wanting to become a nurse and help elderly people. She has shown me a lot of things that I can do, on a daily basis, to help others around me that are less fortunate. I hope one day to have as big of a heart as she has, to be more caring and understanding to those in need.
In conclusion, I learned that when you help someone out, even if it's something small, it may end up surprising you how big it is to the other person. I never realized how something so little can have such a huge impact on someone else's life. I am so blessed to have ended up with such a wonderful person, and sister, in my life. God only knows the wreck I would be in right now without her helping keep my sanity intact. She has blessed my life in so many ways, from helping me keep a clean house, to simply motivating me to do something every day. I encourage you to go out of your way, for someone in need, every chance you get. You never know what may happen.
There's not a whole lot to critique in a simple story such as this. The story is reasonably well told, although it relies occasionally on vague formulations (such as "she is helping me pull through this" - your reader will not have a clear idea what this means) or cliches ("I couldn't have done this without her" - even if they are true, which they often are not, cliches tend to be dull).
The analytical part of your essay, where you reflect on the wider significance of your particular experience, is fairly limited in scope, so it is difficult to see what value or interest the essay might have for a general reader. There's a little lesson, I suppose, in the first sentence of the final paragraph, but in truth it's fairly banal (as is the final sentence), and the conclusion as a whole is rather repetitive.
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